The Self Improvement and NLP Blog -sharing thoughts for April

The Self Improvement and NLP Blog - sharing thoughts for April

Hi good day friends. I was amazed by the power of words which can kill and can warm. Many times we are discouraged by words of anger, words of hurt and sometimes words of criticism while those who gave us wonderful kind words are remembered and warmed our hearts. Yes, I am going to share with you further principles which I learned from my workshop participants. Instead of I, the trainer giving them kind and powerful words to motivate them, they gave me boosters in principles which I shall share shortly.

The Victoria Principle is about the confidence which can derive from simple things such as wearing a simple accessory. Take for instance, a plain white shirt with a red neck-tie or a colourful neck-tie will make the man stand out in a crowd while a lady with a plain outfit coupled with a pearl necklace (which can be plastic beads looking like pearls or water-cultured pearls) can instantly make the person look different. This is called the Victoria principle. Victoria in the sense of victory in thinking and behaviour. So this is the simple Victoria principle for females and Victor principle for you gentlemen out there. One simple accessory even a nice watch or a nice briefcase can make a person outstanding.

The next one is the Monk's principle. Wow, some of us may be wondering what kind of monk philosophy or religious thoughts we have to ponder on. No worries. The basic monk principle is that of clear thoughts and mindfulness. Whenever we do something, some thoughts must be put into it. The mindfulness of doing that particular task is vital to the success that follows after. I was told by a friend that one day he was in the University canteen taking his meal when a friend tripped and fell on someone's computer wire lying haphazardly on the canteen floor, thus causing a person to trip and his own computer to be destroyed because it fell onto the ground and crashed. See, a little mindfulness of just ensuring no one is being inconvenienced by placing the wires in such a way as under a chair or under a table, or put up a sign to tell friends that they should stay away from walking that path or space would have saved the computer from damage and the friend from tripping and hurting himself. This is what the monks do, everything they do in mindful thoughts of others. Even carrying water from the well or sweeping the courtyard of the temple -- even Mother Theresa emphasized this point that it is the little things that matter.

The next principle is called the Good Samaritan Principle. Many of you have heard of the story of being a good samaritan. It is not about helping an injured person but helping yourself. The reason why this story was told is to let people know that what you do is not really about others, it is about the boomerang effect. A good deed comes back to you later on. The empowerment of helping others is in the power of action and self belief that this act will help the other person. This samaritan effect is like the boomerang, what goes round comes around..

I have to go now but I will share the rest of the little philosophies shortly. Many of us are pained by little things in life not by huge problems. It is the little sand that gets into our eyes that cause us to feel painful and uncomfortable and it is the little sand that gets into our shoes that cause us pain in walking, so take care of little things and you can handle big things when they come along.

Cheers and have a good day
Sally Klaus
The Self Improvement and NLP Blog